Love -N- Fitness
Is your significant other emerged in the world of fitness like yourself?
Have you ever noticed all the CrossFit couples out there and wonder what that relationship perk may be like?
If you’re a regular at your box and engulfed in the health & fitness community, it’s likely that it’s only a matter of time before you catch an interested eye, it simply comes with the CrossFit territory and can be a lot of fun and potentially life changing.
ME: “I think I want to try CrossFit for a few months”
HIM: “you should, I think you will like it”
Followed by actions of endless support, this simple exchange of words changed my life in a multitude of ways – the largest being my marriage. Although we met as coaches at the collegiate level completely outside of CrossFit, it is CrossFit that continues to stimulate our relationship towards consistent development currently. This mentioned, I’m sure it would be another avenue of fitness if it wasn’t CrossFit, but whatever the fitness activity is called, through our experience of being surrounded by athletics our entire lives, fitness just seems to connect and attract likeminded individuals. So why is it that CrossFit promotes a stronger connection and a deepening of our love for each other?
In general, exercise is an invigorating activity that can have many positive effects. Being placed in a vulnerable situation where your personal limitations are being tested, and in front of a group of your peers, well that can be scary, but when this fear is embraced, positive connections with all kinds of people are inherently built. Now when you have already caught someone’s eye or a relationship is ongoing, this same phenomena now can cause a physiological arousal and drive a romantic attraction. In general, partners that sweat together, stay together, – its Science!
The Power of Presence
On a personal level, it all began with those simple supportive words. When partners care about fitness—their own and their partner’s—it becomes easier to achieve fitness goals. When I first started CrossFit, I am not sure I had set goals but what I do know is that I might have never started if the words I received were not supportive in nature. Through sport and fitness, we are able to make connections that do not occur in everyday life. The mere presence of someone else can affect your ability to do an activity. Even if you already feel competent doing a particular exercise, having your partner by your side is a fantastic way to boost your energy output. It is a cool feeling to want to impress the one you love through physical movement. With this desire comes positive output. I have lifted more pounds and moved faster than I ever knew possible simply because of my husband’s presence. I love him and always want him to be my number one fan so certainly I want to impress him, even 15 years later.
There is also something to be said about exercise inducing the symptoms of physiological arousal—sweaty hands, a racing pulse, shortness of breath. These symptoms mirror, in many ways, the thrill of romantic attraction. As popular as online dating apps have become, the experience of meeting that special someone at the box while working on your fitness together creates a build-up and a bond like no other. This said, there is no way that I could have qualified for the CrossFit Games for the past six years without my partner. We live our lives as members of a team – Team Black. We have sacrificed our time and energy for each other through fitness and in doing so, our love has grown immensely.
Through training, sweating, crying (mostly me) and sharing all those high fives, our relationship continues to thrive. He is my biggest fan, my coach, my counselor, and my voice of reason. We have been given a new dimension to our relationship that I never knew existed and will forever be grateful for CrossFit in providing that environment. Although this is my experience, I hope through this testament, I can encourage you to go for it, lock it up with someone who pushes you to be the best version of yourself through your shared love of fitness. I guarantee your relationship will flourish! So for the next time you’re at the box, instead of burning a hole through that special someone, maybe you try a little harder and go talk to them, everyone already knows you like them anyway :)