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Training with Your Partner
~ Written by Jenn Jones
Your spouse, your girlfriend, your boyfriend, your number one supporter….Is training together good for your relationship?
There are many dynamic components to a good training environment and I think there are pros and cons to incorporating that into an activity you and your SO (significant other) do together. You need to take a step back and do some self evaluating prior to jumping into this.
- If you met in the gym I think you are off to a great start. This shows that you both have a passion and interest in fitness and can appreciate the goals that your SO may have.
- What type of motivation do you need? Do you need someone to be in your face yelling? Do you want gym partners to always be a little better than you so you are constantly striving to get better? Do you just need a fun atmosphere and someone to go through the motions with you? Understanding how you need support in a “stressful” environment, such as the middle of your WOD, can deflect a lot of unwanted stress down the line.
- Do you know how to take criticism? Is your SO someone who has more knowledge than you? Always being told how to do something, or that you are doing something wrong can be tiring, even if the tips and tricks are coming from a loving place.
- Tensions are slightly higher when you are doing something less than comfortable like working out, or trying to be the best version of yourself you can be. There needs to be a mental divide. Know that what happens in the gym stays in the gym. If you had a bad work out, and bad day, couldn't hit 60% of your best lift, when you go home you no longer have to dwell on it.
I’ve had partners that have tried to be supportive to me while we were training together and I literally just wanted to throw my dumbbell at them, but I’ve also been on the other side of the spectrum where they don't want to be in the gym at all. Bottom line is the choices that you make with your SO should build the relationship that you have with one another. If it’s putting more stress on the relationship, then you need to reevaluate your priorities, or reevaluate your partner choice.